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The Federal Bureau of Investigation’s gang threat assessment says more gangs are turning to white-collar crimes. The assessment also says gang membership is growing, and it is expanding.
Gangs like the Bloods and the Crips are engaging in crimes such as identity theft, counterfeiting, selling stolen goods and even bank, credit card and mortgage fraud, said a new FBI gangs threat assessment. READ MORE
“This Is Very Dangerous” and this is just one way
If your child has decided to get out of a gang , note this is a very dangerous time for the child and family. This is the time to implement a covert strategy, a plan that you and your child must keep secret. You must never alert the gang of your intent. Any family members that are willing to aid your child in this pursuit should meet with you and your child to develop a well, processed plan of action. Below you will find a few examples of how to exit a gang successfully. The example provides a step by step plan of action to initiate this process. It is recommended that each family individualize one’s plan of action that would best suit the given geographic location and situation to meet the need.
First, a child must disassociate his/herself from closet friends in the gang. This step should be taken with precaution. Family support is highly recommended during this step. The child may have to utilize excuses to avoid meeting at given places and times(“Family member died, I’ll be out of town for 4 days,” “I’m going on a family vacation and will not return before 7 days”). Note: If you child has a cellular telephone, it’s recommended that you as a parent revoke all usage. Any phone calls made to the home should be answered by a authoritative figure in the home, to further eliminate contact between the child and fellow gang members.
Second, occupy the child’s time by doing such things as assisting them to obtain employment, playing organized sports of school relation. This will increase the level of responsibility of the child, of which he/she must report to an authoritative figure to participate. Through interviews of actual gang affiliates, the above recommendations have been used with a high success rate. However, interviewees noted that in the case of them remaining in the same environment, including neighborhood, they repeated previous gang behavior of which became a cycling affect. Gang members also indicated that there were some tragedies where members were eventually killed for leaving.
Relocating the entire family to a community that does not have heavy gang activity, so that all ties to the gang can be cut. This may be necessary in extreme cases. We know for some families moving may not be a option financially However, there are parents who have loss there sons and daughter who say they would have done whatever it takes to save their child’s life, quit there job sell there home, whatever.
If you suspect that your child is involved in a gang, you should act immediately. The longer that a person remains in the gang, the less chance that they will get out. Gang members often end up in prison or end up being killed. Young people need information about alternatives to street gangs that can realistically meet their needs.
For more information about gangs and gang activity in your area, contact your local police department.
Please keep in mind that gang affiliation is risky in itself, therefore any actions taken that are contrary to gang rules could result in a tragic ending, including death. Keep Your Child Out of Jail hesitated at first about the subject of getting out of a gangs because of the dangers involved in getting out, read this testimonial.
17 years old. Present Bloods Gang Member of two years.
I’ve been in a gang for about two years. I have shot at people and I have been shot at. I’m very tired of not being able to just chill. Whenever I go out or to the mall, I always have to take 4 to 5 homies with me. I’m ready to leave but my big homie ain’t having that. From what I’ve seen no one has left since I’ve been in this set. My big homie is very dangerous, he stays strapped. I just don’t have anyone to help me get out. All my friends are banging and my big brother is in the gang. I just wish I had never joined the gang.
Note Book = Surprisingly every new gang member has to study his gangs knowledge. They will have a notebook full of gang graffiti, symbols and codes they have to learn. In this notebook everything may be written in one color.
Unexplained Money = Every gang member has to bring money in either by selling drugs, robbing or committing a criminal act.
Tattoo = There are various gang tattoos.
New Friends = They may start hanging with people outside of their age group. They may be much older in age.
Clothing = Most gang members no longer wear their colors and so-called gang clothes in public for fear of identification by police. But most gang members will have bandana with their colors on it referred to as a flag.
Flashing Signs = hand signs that gang members use.
Slang Language = Your child starts using language different than how they normally speak.
Never Home = In order to be a successful gang member you have to put in time with the gang. Which is normally committing crimes.
Colors = Your child refuses to wear certain colors and develops a fondness for a specific color.
The presence of Firearms, ammunition, or other deadly weapons.
Phone Threats to the family from rival gangs (or unknown callers) directed against your child.
Graffiti They may have graffiti like artwork on their school books or folders.
Use of a new nickname.
Among two siblings of which the oldest is in a gang , the likely hood of the youngest becoming a gang member is high.
If your son or daughter is in a gang, they have to complete missions (i.e. when instructed by a gang leader to commit such crimes as arm robbery, auto theft, and/or killing a rival gang member).
Gang initiation for females include but not limited to getting beat in (having to fight 5 to 15 gang members at one time), sexed in (participating in sexual acts with multiple gang members). In most cases, females are asked to engage in one of the two initiation processes, however; in some cases, they may be asked to later participate in the other, if so, they MUST complete the given task.
Rank is also significant in gang membership. It mirrors the structure of the military, by completing missions (the more you do, the higher you go).
In gangs, the gang Leader is referred to as the Original Gangster (OG), or Big Homies.
Materials gained/collected during a mission must be shared with the OG (money, electronic items).
Love, support and encouragement, Your attention is the most loving gift you can give to your child.
Sports/activities. Help your child fill their time. If you and your child become more involved in his/her interests, it may prevent your child from becoming involved in a gang.
Talk to your kids, about right and wrong on daily basis. Have open discussion and listen to them. When you listen to your child, you are showing interest in him as a person. This is a very powerful way to build your child’s self-esteem.
Role Model, children learn by following the example of others. You should do everything you can to make sure you are the picture of what you want you child to become.
Rules and consequences, Parents should make rules that are clear and sensible. If rules are broken, then punishment must be applied. Kids need to know clearly what is expected of them and, the consequences for acting otherwise.
In Virginia, small neighborhood gangs have been in existence as far back as 1980. Some of which included The Ebony Playboys, Philly mafia, FOBs, Blvd Boys, Shoot ‘Em Up Posse,’ The Family, The Kwame’s, and the Diego Boys. Although these gangs had a history of violence, they didn’t expand outside of their neighborhoods.
No one can be sure when the California influence of gangs hit Virginia. However, from talking to gang members and former gang leaders, it was estimated between 1997 and 1998. It was very easy for gangs to take hold in the Hampton roads area, after the aftermath of crack cocaine that devastated the local urban community. So many fathers were either in prison or addicted to drugs, and not to mention the lack of leadership in the community. It was doing this time that the media began to focus on single families that consisted of “no fathers.” This seems to be the stimulus that fueled the increase of young men joining gangs in the state of Virginia. Over 300 gang members and associates have been identified in Virginia Beach. Newport News recently indicted six gang members on robbery, murder, assault, arsine, and narcotic distribution. FBI special agent in charge Alex Turner says the investigation will continue until the gang is dismantled.
Small counties across Virginia have allocated resources to try to stop gang violence. Some of which include, Martinsville, VA, that had at least one gang related murder. Another includes Roanoke, VA, of which the Crips and Bloods are fighting over territory, and in Fairfax, VA, three teenagers were arrested for the beatings death of a 16 year old. In Portsmouth, Chesapeake and Suffolk, the Bounty Hunter Bloods and Nine Tech Gangsters joined forces to maximize their drug profit and influence in areas like Churchland, Cradock, College Square, Huntersville and Burbage Grant and in the Dunedin section of Chesapeake.
Keep Your Child Out Of Jail has talked to several residents in the Virginia Beach area, who believed that for a long time, Virginia has had a gang issue, which has been ignored and camouflaged by the tourism aspect of the city. The local authorities are beginning to work together and have formed gang task force to address this gang violence, but more needs to be done to assist in curving recruitment of young adolescents into gangs.